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Your Authentic Self

We live in a time where being yourself is exceptionally challenging for most people. Our social media-obsessed society teaches us to wear masks and falsely represent our true selves to impress people we do not know and are not being their authentic selves to gain likes and followers. This creates a genuine issue because our society is changing into a culture where people have to keep up personas in fear of being exposed as a fake when their authentic selves are not being given a chance to grow. The issue with this is that people are not learning to value what really makes them special.

Now more than ever people feel pressured to meet unrealistic beauty standards are causing people to develop mental health issues, identity issues, and severe problems with body dysmorphia. The effects of social media marketing and advertising are causing many people to adopt materialistic mindsets. This is only magnified by the use of likes as people equate likes and reposts as value.

All of this is causing unneeded and dangerous pressure to be placed on teenagers and society as a whole when we really should be accepting people for who they are and encouraging people to grow as individuals, not clones of the latest influencer. Countless studies correlate teenage depression, anxiety, and even suicide with social media addiction and overuse.

Changing the Narrative

If social networks such as Facebook and Instagram promoted more authentic means of storytelling such as deeper interactions, written storytelling natural conversations, it would help to support a healthier reflection of who people are and not who they think people want them to be. If social networks promoted positive things more openly by advertising platforms for positivity and authentic representations of who people are, we would begin to see people taking more pride in who they are authentically. One idea that might work is to have different sections for stories where positive things such as kindness and genuine interactions with people are promoted. If the videos are unauthentic they can be reported and removed. Keeping the users honest and not just in search of likes.

When We Become More We Do not Need More.

The three main relationships that are expressed through social media are:

  • Doing – “Look what I can Do”. This attitude is used mainly by people hoping for a return in likes or marketing a product or brand. Do not get me wrong, there is a need for marketing on social media, and I would be a complete hypocrite if I denied that I use this to promote my products. But I believe a lack of authenticity affects our society negatively that will hopefully change soon.
  • Having – “Look at all my shiny things” This is showing off for people who you do not know and if they did would probably not like you ( because you’re not genuine). Collecting objects and showing them off on social media does nothing positive for anyone, especially the person doing it.
  • Realness/ Being Authentic – When people show who they truly are and act from a place of authenticity, it helps share that person’s experience with others in a way that inspires, motivates, and encourages people to be REAL.

I hope that we see more of this as time goes on because I am getting tired of people I do not know trying to impress me with things I simply do not care about. Can you show me something real? Can you inspire me to want to be more. If not, thats okay, but please stop pump faking people with disingenuous video’s of fake insincerity. Just be yourself and grow into who you truly want to be.

You Are Enough

Lead With Love

In our lives, we all have challenges in which we question how we define ourselves. If we choose to define ourselves based on our values, beliefs, and personalities, we must be cautious about assessing who we are in the present instead of who we have been in the past. And, we must think beyond unhealthy labels—those we place on ourselves and those outside sources place on us. Who we are cannot be defined simply by what we do, what we have done in the past or our emotions. Who we are in our most authentic nature is based upon our core beliefs—those we hold about ourselves and those we embrace as universal truths.

Excerpt from IndiGrowth Health & Wellness upcoming book:

IndiGrowth’s Guide to Healing Relationships Through Mindful Awareness.

Written by Clayton Hobbs